How to Become The Only Woman Like You In The Universe

There are few joys that compare to the joy of realizing that you are truly phenomenal, something to wonder at. That is quite an achievement. Of course, it’s great if other people realize it too, but the reverse satisfaction of being content that only you know that is unmatched.

A person and their personality can be a work of art, but here’s the thing:
It is false that the most interesting people are just born that way. Sure, there are people that are truly exceptional and they have always existed that way. But I believe in the self made woman. I, myself, am a self made woman. It took a long time to get here.

A self made woman is someone who expands and evolves endlessly. I believe that through hard work you can be whoever you choose to be and do whatever it is you want to do. Life is far more malleable than people pretend it is. Most people simply stop shaping themselves.

That being said, life is not so effortless for us self made women. Not in the beginning at least. There is such a thing as learned elegance where you can seemingly hide all of that work and make it appear like you were born with it. Sprezzatura.

Sprezzatura: the art of making highly curated, complex actions or styles appear effortless and natural.

However, you do have to learn. You do have to work for it. You want to be a one of one, not a one of a million.

A singularly individualistic person.

AKA: the only woman like you in the universe. This, my lovelies, takes effort. Effort exerted over a long period of time.

The beautiful thing is that this effort is self serving. It is one of the few disciplines where the work itself becomes pleasurable because you are building yourself into your own ideal. Your eye sharpens, your taste refines, your mind expands, and soon your life begins to reflect your interior world more and more.

This is why private cultivation matters so much. You have to put in the time privately, and learn how to integrate publicly.

A woman who really knows her craft understands that everything has to look like you didn’t try. It has to look like you just are. This is why you must practice and curate every day, so when you step out into the world, you already are.

Anyone that gets to observe your presence is lucky that they get to experience it.