What Do You Live For?
"Beauty will save the world." - Dostoevsky
What do you live for?
It was the journal prompt question that had me stumped on a windy Tuesday morning. I had been staring at the blank page for 30 minutes, unable to answer. I didn’t know.
I’ve always carried a quiet sense of being different, not in a way that made me feel unloved, but in a way that made me feel like I was meant for something else. That difference led me on a lifelong path of self-discovery, creating my own happiness, rituals, and sense of home. This quest for meaning led me to study not only religions like Christianity, Buddhism, Islam, and Judaism but also various areas of culture: art, ballet, classic literature, fashion, and history. I’ve sought to understand the beauty and complexity of the world in an effort to better understand myself. Whether it was striving for excellence in whatever I sought out to do or becoming the ultimate, well-rounded woman, I have always pushed myself, worked harder, and sought to stand out…believing that effort and discipline would make me special.
I’ve realized that my drive to excel and refine myself stems from a deep desire to create meaning in a world that often feels like it has none.
In a universe where everything means nothing, I’ve worked to make nothing mean everything.
And through it all, beauty became my language, my armor, and my sanctuary. It was and is a way to express who I am, find my place in the world, and create the identity I always longed for. For as long as I can remember, I’ve lived for beauty and truth. To me, beauty means maintaining myself well, surrounding myself with things that inspire and uplift me, and creating a life that feels as harmonious as a grand garden with fountains and perfectly trimmed hedges. Truth, on the other hand, has been my constant search for understanding: of the world, of people, of myself.
I learned early on that people don’t always want to hear the truth, especially when it comes to change. But I couldn’t settle for surface-level living or accept what was average or bare minimum. I often watched as others followed societal norms I couldn’t bring myself to accept: people pleasing, following the masses, and being content with what society says is the “American dream.” Instead, I created my own path, one that’s guided by intention and a commitment to uncovering what truly matters.
Life often feels like a game. A game where we’re always chasing the next level, convinced that happiness is just on the other side of achieving something new. When you’re on the outside looking in, it’s easy to believe that once you get “there,” everything will fall into place. Once I get the designer dress, I’ll feel worthy. Once I take my dream vacation, I’ll finally feel fulfilled.
But the truth is, everyone is playing their own game. And no matter what level they start at, they face their own unique challenges. It doesn’t matter if you’re starting at level one with nothing or at level thirty with every opportunity handed to you. Life will always demand growth, strategy, and perseverance to move forward.
The person dreaming of their first designer dress imagines it will solve their problems, while someone at level ten is overwhelmed by a closet overflowing with haute couture. The person longing for their first trip to Paris dreams of how transformative it will be, while someone at level five is dreading yet another plane ride to the same destination.
When you’re in something, you’re desperate to move forward.
When it’s gone, you ache to go back.
You would treat things differently if you knew it’d be the last time you got that experience. Most of us never know, until it’s over, that it’s the end. We live frivolously and complain about mundane things. Until one day, it’s all gone and everything has changed.
The secret is this:
Happiness isn’t about the level you’re on. It’s about how you approach the game. True peace and contentment don’t come from what you acquire or achieve but from the rituals, meaning, beauty and joy you create for yourself along the way. You will never be happy all the time. No one is “happy” all of the time, but you can find an unshakable sense of peace and confidence if you learn how to shape your life in a way that aligns with who you are and what you value.
This is where beauty becomes more than a look or a trend…it becomes a ritual, a compass, and a stabilizer. Beauty allows you to ground yourself in care and presentation that give you clarity, confidence, and self-trust. The way you treat your body, your space, and your image shapes the way you think and feel. Beauty becomes a form of mental discipline, a way to center your thoughts, elevate your energy, and create a life that feels both inspired and intentional.
Think about the most elegant women you know. They make it look effortless because, for them, it is effortless. They aren’t trying to look like something; they’re simply being who they’ve chosen to become. When you develop your relationship with beauty (whatever that looks like for you), it stops being a performance and becomes your nature. It’s one less thing you have to question, and that frees you to live with greater depth, freedom, and awareness.
Beauty has been more than an aesthetic to me; it’s been a way of crafting my identity, of aligning myself with the life I was meant to live. Through beauty, I’ve been able to navigate the world on my terms, using how I carry myself as both a shield and a key. I have been able protect myself from the harshness of some realities as well as unlock doors that might have otherwise remained closed.
But how did I get here? And how will you get where you want to go?
Stop for a moment. Pour yourself a cup of tea, light a candle, and settle into this space.
Let’s explore what it means to craft a life of elegance, truth, and purpose through beauty…together.
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